Matthew 19:5

And said, For this cause shall a man leave father and mother, and shall cleave to his wife: and they twain shall be one flesh?

Matthew 19:5 (KJV)

Context

Jesus speaks these words in reply to the Pharisees’ question about divorce (Matthew 19:3-9). He points back to the creation account, quoting Genesis 2:24, to show that marriage is not a human invention but a divine institution. The phrase “for this cause” ties the marriage bond directly to God’s creation of male and female.

Meaning

The word “cleave” denotes a deep, permanent bond, indicating that a husband and wife are joined in a committed, inseparable union. This union is not merely legal or social but spiritual and emotional, ordained by God. “Leaving” father and mother marks a shift in primary allegiance and responsibility, not an abandonment of parents. The new family unit takes priority, though the former relationship continues.

The phrase “they twain shall be one flesh” underscores the unity and intimacy of marriage—heart, mind, and body. This oneness extends beyond physical intimacy to encompass emotional, spiritual, and relational unity. Jesus affirms God’s original design: a lifelong commitment between one man and one woman.

Biblical connections

Paul quotes this verse in Ephesians 5:31, applying it to Christ and the church, revealing a typological connection. This reinforces the sacredness of the marital bond as a picture of divine love.

Application

While this verse presents the ideal, the Bible also acknowledges human brokenness and gives guidance on divorce and remarriage elsewhere. The focus here, however, is on God’s original plan—a call to honor the permanence and sacredness of marriage in a world that often treats it lightly.

Reflection

Consider how your own relationships reflect the priority and oneness described here. Let this verse inspire a deeper commitment to the spouse God has given, and a greater trust in His design for marriage.