Deuteronomy 5:16

Honour thy father and thy mother, as the Lord thy God hath commanded thee; that thy days may be prolonged, and that it may go well with thee, in the land which the Lord thy God giveth thee.

Deuteronomy 5:16 (KJV)

Context

Deuteronomy records Moses’ final speeches to Israel before they enter the Promised Land. Here he repeats the Ten Commandments to the new generation, giving special attention to the command to honour father and mother. This command belongs to the covenant between God and Israel, showing that family relationships are central to a healthy society.

Meaning

The word “honour” means deep respect, esteem, and care. It is more than simple obedience. Honouring parents includes valuing their wisdom, following their instruction unless it conflicts with God’s commands, and caring for them in old age. This duty does not depend on whether parents are worthy or always right. God calls His people to honour them because He has placed them in authority.

Moses makes clear that this is not a suggestion or a cultural custom. It is a divine decree. The LORD your God has commanded it. This gives the command great weight and shows that how we treat our parents matters to God. The honour is not earned by parents; it is given because of God’s design.

Biblical connections

This commandment appears twice in the law, in Exodus 20:12 and here in Deuteronomy 5:16. In the New Testament, Paul calls it the first commandment with a promise (Ephesians 6:2-3). Jesus rebukes those who avoid caring for their parents by making a religious excuse (Mark 7:9-13). Even on the cross, He provides for His mother Mary (John 19:26-27). These passages show that honouring parents remains a lasting duty for God’s people.

Application

The command to honour parents continues through every stage of life. Children obey and respect. Adults care for aging parents and seek their counsel. The principle also extends to honouring other authorities, respecting elders, and valuing the contributions of previous generations. When we honour our earthly parents, we learn to honour God, our ultimate Father.

The verse gives two promises. First, your days may be prolonged. This does not always mean a longer physical life, but it suggests a life blessed with stability and peace. Second, it will go well with you in the land the LORD gives. In the Old Testament, this promise was tied to life in the Promised Land. For believers today, it points to the well-being that comes from walking in obedience to God.

Reflection

Honouring parents is a practical way to show reverence for God’s order. It builds strong families and a healthy society. It also reminds us that every good gift, including the land and the blessings, comes from the LORD. As we honour those He has placed over us, we trust Him to keep His promises and to work all things for our good.