Ephesians 6:2

Honour thy father and mother; (which is the first commandment with promise;)

Ephesians 6:2 (KJV)

Context

Paul wrote the book of Ephesians to the church in Ephesus, and in this chapter he gives instructions for Christian households. In the verses just before Ephesians 6:2, he addresses wives and husbands, and then he turns to children and parents. This verse is part of that larger teaching on family relationships, showing that honoring parents is not an isolated rule but part of God’s design for the whole household.

Meaning

Here Paul quotes the fifth commandment from Exodus 20:12. To honor means to show respect, love, gratitude, and obedience. It is more than outward compliance; it includes reverence in thought, word, and action. This command applies to children, but it also continues to apply to adults. Even after we leave our parents’ home, we are still called to honor them throughout life.

Paul adds a parenthetical note: this is “the first commandment with promise.” In the Ten Commandments, this is the first one that carries a specific promise. The promise is stated in the next verse, Ephesians 6:3: “That it may be well with thee, and thou mayest live long on the earth.” In the original setting of Exodus, the promise referred to long life in the land God gave Israel. Paul applies it more broadly to believers, indicating that honoring parents aligns with God’s design for a blessed and stable life.

Biblical connections

The commandment to honor parents is rooted in the Old Testament law, but Paul reaffirms it for New Testament believers. This shows that the moral principle behind the commandment remains in force. The promise attached to it is not a guarantee of a long physical life for every individual, but it suggests that a life lived in obedience to God’s order tends toward well-being and longevity. Honoring parents also reflects our relationship with God, because the family structure is part of the authority and order He established.

Application

As believers, we should take this commandment seriously. We are to honor our parents in word and deed, even when they are imperfect. If our parents have shortcomings, we can still show them respect and love. This command also reminds parents of their responsibility to raise children in a way that encourages honor and respect, ultimately pointing them to God.

Reflection

Honoring parents is not merely a childhood duty; it is a lifelong calling. It contributes to healthy family relationships and a harmonious home. By obeying this commandment, we demonstrate obedience to God and trust in His design for the family. The promise attached to it encourages us to live in a way that pleases God, knowing that He blesses those who follow His commands.