Judges 19:3
And her husband arose, and went after her, to speak friendly unto her, and to bring her again, having his servant with him, and a couple of asses: and she brought him into her father’s house: and when the father of the damsel saw him, he rejoiced to meet him.
Judges 19:3 (KJV)
Context
The book of Judges records Israel’s history after Joshua’s death, a time of spiritual and moral decline. The people repeatedly turned from God, and the nation suffered cycles of disobedience, oppression, repentance, and deliverance. Judges 19 tells a tragic story from the days when Israel had no king.
A Levite traveled to Bethlehem to bring back his concubine, who had left him and returned to her father’s house. His journey with a servant and two donkeys shows careful preparation for the trip and for her safe return.
Meaning
The husband’s response reveals his desire for reconciliation. He “arose” and “went after her” to “speak friendly unto her.” In Hebrew, this phrase means to speak to her heart, using tender and persuasive words rather than force or anger. He took the first step to mend the broken relationship.
When the concubine brought him into her father’s house, the father rejoiced to meet him. His warm welcome suggests hope for restored harmony and reflects the cultural duty of hospitality. The father’s joy may also show relief that the husband sought peace.
Biblical connections
This moment of intended reconciliation stands in sharp contrast to the horrific events that follow in the rest of the chapter. The story illustrates the national disorder described in Judges 21:25, when everyone did what was right in his own eyes.
Application
This verse encourages believers to take the initiative in seeking peace, speaking kindly and gently to those who have drifted away. It also reminds us to welcome those who come to reconcile, just as the father welcomed the Levite.
Reflection
Consider your own relationships. Are you willing to humble yourself and go after someone in love, speaking to their heart? And when others seek reconciliation with you, do you receive them with joy?
