Genesis 34:12

Ask me never so much dowry and gift, and I will give according as ye shall say unto me: but give me the damsel to wife.

Genesis 34:12 (KJV)

Context

This verse belongs to the story of Dinah, Jacob’s daughter, and Shechem, son of Hamor the Hivite. Earlier in the chapter, Shechem violated Dinah, yet he then loved her and wished to marry her. His father had already proposed intermarriage and economic sharing with Jacob’s family. Now Shechem speaks directly to Jacob and Dinah’s brothers, who are angry and grieved because their sister’s honor has been harmed.

Meaning

Shechem says, “Ask me never so much dowry and gift,” meaning he will pay whatever price they set. The Hebrew phrase carries the sense of “multiply exceedingly,” showing an open-ended offer. In that culture, the dowry was a payment from the groom to the bride’s family, not a gift to the bride. His promise of gold, silver, and livestock was meant to show sincerity and to gain their approval for the marriage.

Biblical connections

This bride-price practice later became part of Israelite law. In Exodus 22:16-17 and Deuteronomy 22:28-29, a man who violated an unbetrothed virgin had to pay her father and marry her. Shechem’s offer follows that custom, but the next verses show that Jacob’s sons answered with deceit because of their sister’s defilement.

Application

Shechem’s willingness to pay any price stands in contrast to the deception that follows. The chapter does not approve his actions, but it records his attempt to make amends through the usual legal and social channels. It reminds us that even sincere offers cannot undo the harm caused by wrongdoing, and that justice must be sought without guile.

Reflection

This verse challenges us to consider how we respond when we have wronged others. A generous offer does not erase the offense. True repentance requires honesty and a willingness to face the consequences, not just a payment to smooth things over.