Luke 14:20
And another said, I have married a wife, and therefore I cannot come.
Luke 14:20 (KJV)
Context
Jesus spoke this verse during a meal at the house of a Pharisee, where He told the parable of the great supper (Luke 14:16-24). In the parable, a certain man made a great supper and sent his servant to call the invited guests. One by one, they began to make excuses. The third guest said, “I have married a wife, and therefore I cannot come.” The supper represents the kingdom of God and the invitation to eternal life through faith in Christ.
Meaning
The excuse reveals a priority conflict. Marriage is a sacred institution ordained by God, and the man’s reason sounds reasonable. Yet the parable shows that he allowed a legitimate earthly commitment to take precedence over responding to the master’s invitation. His refusal was not because the invitation was unimportant, but because he considered his personal circumstances more pressing. The verse warns that human priorities can blind people to the urgency and value of God’s call.
Biblical connections
Jesus consistently taught the cost of discipleship. He calls for total commitment and a willingness to put Him above all other relationships and commitments (Luke 14:26-27). He does not forbid marriage or legitimate responsibilities, but He demands undivided allegiance. As Jesus said elsewhere, “He that loveth father or mother more than me is not worthy of me” (Matthew 10:37). The parable also shows that those who offer excuses miss the great supper; the master then invited the poor, crippled, blind, and lame, so that his house would be full (Luke 14:21-23).
Application
Prioritize God – Our love and commitment to God must be paramount, above all relationships and obligations.
Count the Cost – Following Jesus involves sacrifice and a willingness to let go of anything that hinders our devotion.
Respond to the Invitation – We should not make excuses or delay; we must accept His invitation with humility and surrender.
Seek Balance – While giving utmost devotion to Christ, we also fulfill our responsibilities, striking a balance that keeps Christ at the center.
Reflection
Luke 14:20 challenges us to examine our own priorities. It is easy to let good things—family, work, or daily concerns—crowd out the best thing. The verse does not condemn marriage, but it does warn against allowing any earthly relationship to become a reason for rejecting Christ’s invitation. The cost of discipleship is real, but the supper is worth it.
